We have made it to the end of 2020 and whew what a year it has been! This past week I spent time reflecting on my shortcomings and identifying what I could have done better. I identified a few things that I’m leaving behind in 2020.
Things to Leave Behind
Are you constantly putting things off for the last minute? Is there a driving force for this behavior? Do you work best under pressure?
Over the last few months, my procrastination has stemmed from mental exhaustion. I’ve been so busy with my job that most days I don’t have the bandwidth to fulfill my personal tasks. When tasks are put off to later times this can lead to anxiety and stress. There are some days that I put off task because I don’t think my work is good enough. For example, I drafted three blog posts at the beginning of this year and published none. My perfectionist mindset paralyzed me from publishing my blog posts. As a result, I’m playing catch up and batching content to publish before the end of the year. I learned from my undergrad days to not leave things for the last minute because you will produce a rushed product.
Moving into 2020, I will make a better effort of leaving things for the last minute. Let’s plan the work and the work the plan moving into the new year.
Lack of Healthy Boundaries
“Setting boundaries inevitably involves taking responsibility for your choices. You are the one who makes them. You are the one who must live with their consequences. And you are the one who may be keeping yourself from making the choices you could be happy with. We must own our own thoughts and clarify distorted thinking.”
Before we discuss the lack of boundaries let us first define the term: Dr. Henry Cloud states boundaries are personal property lines that define who you are and who you are not, and influence all areas of your life. Why do we lack boundaries? Is it because were in fear of hurting the other persons’ feelings? Are we trying to please everyone around us to feel needed?
When we lack boundaries we tend to spend our time and energy doing what others want us to do over what we really want to do. Saying “Yes” when we really want to say “No” will start to take a toll on our mental health. Boundaries aren’t created for other people they are created for ourselves. Healthy boundaries are taking responsibility for your actions and emotions but not having the responsibility for the actions or emotions of others. What you allow is what will continue. When we don’t set healthy boundaries we let people continue to take us for granted.
Let’s leave behind a lack of healthy boundaries and set clear physical, mental, emotional ones.
Do you often talk yourself out of pursuing an opportunity? Do you have tons of ideas but have yet to act on them?[click_to_tweet tweet=” Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will Suzy Kassem” quote=”Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will Suzy Kassem”]There have been many occasions in my career where I have been consumed with self-doubt. If it wasn’t for my supportive work tribe encouraging me to pursue the next level of my life I don’t think I would have made it this far in life. At the beginning of the year, I entertained moving into a role that I thought was way out of my league. I shared my interest with my co-workers in this field and they thought I was qualified. I gave in and applied for the position. Interview prep was more challenging than I expected but it paid off because I advance to the next round. Although I was able to advance to the next round I did not get the job. Despite not getting the position that experience fueled my confidence. I discovered I was more than capable to do the job all I had to do was trust myself and remain confident.
Self- doubt can erode our confidence. I encourage you to trust yourself enough to know that anything you put your mind to you can achieve. You are more than enough. Anytime you start second-guessing yourself lean on your tribe and review your accomplishments. Have grace with yourself nine times out of ten we are our own worst critic. Let’s leave self-doubt behind and unlock our full potential.
What are some things you’re leaving behind in 2020?